“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company … a church … a home.
The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change the inevitable.
The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude … I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you … we are in charge of our Attitudes.”— Charles Swindoll
As I celebrate another rotation on this Earth (happy birthday to ME), I reflected on this quote from renowned evangelical pastor, Charles Swindoll, and how true it is. Although I didn’t do much today, I felt that it was important to review the last year of my life and it’s been one hell of a ride. I encountered a lot of difficult periods throughout this last year across the board: struggling to find my scholarly identity, questioning my professional choices, getting “not interested” from jobs that I applied for, and wedding planning among other things, however, my attitude wasn’t always the best. I’d asked “why me?” I struggled to understand what the impact that these situations would have in my own life and the lesson that I’m supposed to learn from them.
I realized that I didn’t have the right attitude about things. I realized that the attitude that I had years ago would not be applicable to situations happening in my life now. My attitude in past relationships won’t work in my marriage. Attitudes about money shouldn’t be the same as they were when I was 18 years old. With age comes wisdom and with wisdom comes a responsibility to do better. There’s so much more to lose now and I know that I have to take life up another notch contrary to what everyone else is doing.
Today, I’m happy to see another year on this earth, which I’m so grateful for at a time when friends and people are dying every day. Talking to my family today reminded me that we get to choose our attitudes despite any situation that comes our way. My best friend since high school reminded me of some of the trouble that we used to get into when we were younger and I couldn’t believe some of the stuff we used to get into. He told me how we ran the streets of Jacksonville with no money, but a full heart of joy and made the best out of the shitty situations that we found ourselves in. Although these situations caused a lot of stress and anxiousness back then, I see the reason for them now. I chose my attitude then and I’m choosing it now. An attitude of love, patience, and understanding is needed now more than ever. Here’s to another year to making changes and progress in this thing called life!