Sup fam!? What’s new with you all? You’re probably getting ready to head back to school or teach some bad ass kids since its a new academic year (all my educators, ya’ll know what’s up). A couple days ago, I was in Mexico sitting across from the baddest, most beautiful, intellectually stimulating, hood adjacent woman I know and love: my wife! Yes, you heard that correctly: “MY WIFE!” Talk about identity changes. We were on our honeymoon and we had a lot drinks to enjoy one another as well as talk about this new chapter that we’re embarking on in our lives. As I reflect back on the last 18 months, I can say that I’m truly happy about how our special day turned out. I know that the day is just one small moment in a lifetime of experiences with my wife, but dammit, I have to recognize the day! Here are some moments that really stood out for me during our wedding day:
*Everyone always said that your wedding day is going to go by fast, but I didn’t know it would go in a blink of an eye- I got up early that morning and went to my groomsmen around 7a and just to talk about my anxious feelings. We went to a local grocery store and bought some food and drinks for my folks for the day. Of course we talked about what it took for me to get here, the impact that this joining of families will have on our futures, and just things to think about for the day. Time seemed to go by so fast and before I knew it, I was crying watching my wife walk down the aisle. I wish I took more photos and videos from the day, but I wanted to really be in the moment.
*Seeing my Nawlins’ family at a very critical moment in the day- I was talking to a very frustrating person and they came at the perfect time. The sight of my Nawlins’ family was reassuring at a time where I needed to be surrounded by love!
*Getting to see my current and former students- Working in my field, there are a few students that seem to become family and you treat them as such. When I saw my UCR students, I was so excited to see them dressed in Black and it was genuine love. Even better, at the reception, I was happy that they finally had the chance to see me in my full element. For some of them, it was their first time attending a wedding and I’m happy I was able to give that to them. I love my students!
*Our first dance- Look I’ve been to my fair share of weddings, but I ain’t ever seen a first dance like ours. It was cool to see all of our personal styles incorporated into our dance and I LOVED seeing her C-walk in her dress. Some people probably thought it was too much, but it was us! My wife did THAT!
*The Reception- Now, the ceremony was cool and my wife played a huge part in that (I mean, its really her show), but the reception?! That was me! I wanted it to be fun, exciting, and truly represent us all the way. My groomsmen and I did a surprise New Edition performance, the Deltas in the wedding did their thang, and even strolled. But the music?!? LIT!!! LIT! LIT!!!
*Everyone in attendance- It’s one thing to send out numerous RSVPS and emails to ensure that people are going to come to your wedding, its another to actually see them show up! I really felt the love from our FAMILY! It was the first time that I can remember that so many parts of my life came together at one time.
*TallyTakeOver- Now, anybody that knows me knows that I LOVE to bop, Lauderdale Drop, and more! All of these are dance moves originated in Florida and popularized back in the day, especially in Tallahassee. Since I’ve been in California, people always asked about the dances that I’d do at a party or what a “shone” is. At our wedding, my California folk was introduced to it all as my Florida fam and I tore that dance floor up.
*Marrying my best friend- Ask me back in the day if I would have married someone from across the country who can c-walk in a wedding dress? I would’ve definitely said not a chance, however, God has a way of making His plan happen. I’m so happy to have found someone that not only pushes, but provides a space to call “home” in her arms.
There are so many other moments that took place that day and I’m sure I’m going to write more about it soon. I’m happy that we had the wedding that we wanted and was able to share it with our family and friends. Thank you to everyone that supported us on this journey!